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MY MOTHER'S CHILD

'I live in a space inside my head,a cluttered space crammed with random thoughts about life, love and the struggle of being a 27yr old african woman trying to 'find' herself but losing her self in the process.I always vowed when I was growing up that I would do things differently from my mother. As the years have gone by I find myself modelling my life on the woman I thought I wasn't strong enough to become,'(If you ever have the chance to meet my mother even once, to be given the chance to be half the woman my mother is, you will know that you have been truly blessed) Finally I have had to embrace the fact, that I'm nothing but My Mother's Child....

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Liar Liar, Pants on fire

Wahala wont leave me alone oh!!!!!! My former best friend (the one i stopped hanging out with coz she was too much of a ho for my liking and her unscrupulous reputation was now threatening to shadow and subsequently dilute my own clean cut girl next door image) is now dating HIM. (you can read about him in that link)

men are sooooooo fickle, to think that it was only yesterday when he was planning a romantic break with me to Paris. Were it not for the inconvenience of a new job and lack of time off ............. okay that's a lie cause I would never have gone with him he is too much trouble for my delicate heart. But anyway my question is (mainly to the men up in here) if you were seriously chasing a chicca and she keeps saying no outright what is a decent mourning period before chasing another girl that she may or may not know about? b) I have learnt that x's should not be passed on to friends but what can be said about x best friends and guys who tried their luck and failed, what does the friendship/relationship manual got to say about that one??????

Anyway I went to her place to pick up the rest of my stuff left over from 'the best friend days' and the whole flat was swarming in roses and Lilly's. Seriously it was as if you walked into a Macy's type departmental store only difference would be this would sell only flowers. Now I'm always one for juicy gossip so I'm like 'oh new suitor' and she blah blahed and mumbled something like 'M gave them to me as a moving home gift' i was like oh really I didn't know you and M were cool like that, and she was like oh we just hang and i was like oh cool but deep down i was thinking 'that's sure a lot of flowers, for jus hanging, damn if those Lilly's are just for 'hanging out' what would he give someone he touched first let alone third base with'.....but i said nothing I just picked up my stuff and left.

So after church last weekend, I decided to pick up some last minute Christmas presents and who do i bump into M and the ex best friend hand in hand, with a Hermes bag draped casually around her arm. i jus knew it had to be true, the part of my heart currently reserved for all things sinfully expensive (which includes designer bags) cried a few silent tears lol. they convince me into having some sort of brunch. So the two idiots are making a complete fool out of me touching underneath the table and shiiiiii. I pretend not to notice but he's acting like he is doing it on purpose kind saying to me 'yeah you could have had all of this ' he was really rubbing it in like oh we going to France for a friends holiday do you want to come, blah blah blah. and they are still claiming to be friends..... liar liar someone's pants should be scotching hot by now. I dont mind (seriously) if they are dating, his rich (i love all things sinfully expensive) but his too much of a player (hence not my type), but i just wish they could be a bit more upfront about things coz there is nothing to hide. To be honest those two truly deserve each other (in a not so good way lol)

Anyway the real drama happened yesterday there I am in Morrison's doing my last minute shopping (who am i kidding I shop all the time) and who do i bump into ..... yes M and some seemingly pregnant white chick(or she was just fat with a huge potbelly) canoodling at the cheese counter I do a double take (chick has an identical hermes Bag to my ex best friend, this boy must be buying in bulk lol) but I jus say hi and go about my biz (this is M we talking about). M calls me up this morning and says blah blah blah can i not tell my ex best friend about this blah blah blah and I'm like in the sweetest voice ever ..."Now why would i want to do that, after all you two are just really good friends aren't you ? " (and hang up on his stupid ass, mschewwwwwww)

Its my sisters 21st birthday on Wednesday, and she's having a party at her house, I cant wait. Its been a good 6 months since i last had some wine......so I'm saving up all my calories to enjoy some Asti this Wednesday....I deserve it!!!!!!

43 comments:

Naija Bunny said...

Furssssssssssssssst!
Yeah!

Naija Bunny said...

Im new here sha,
and if i know anything ex best friend should be flaming by now and as for HIM or M; forget him, though painful but you can see that he's just not your kind.

"Player Player, Not for my mothers child........

Funms-the rebirth said...

claiming my spot...... off to read

Funms-the rebirth said...

thank God u fled from M that time o........ playa!
the funny thing my dear is ur having the last laugh cuz im sure ur ex- best friend was happy to rub ur face in it and to think u know the guy is cheating on her now, hehehehe (im evil!)was the hermés bag, buy one get one free? lol......
pls have fun at ur sister's bday jare... Merry Christmas luv

Afrobabe said...

lol...dramma....

you have it plenty..

kai, I would have dropped a real tear at that designer bag oh....

Ms.O said...

ohh I loveee Asti!!! wow thank God you didnt date M what a waste that would have been. But you shoulda stuck around to get the courtesy Hermes bag!...i kid i kid!..have a great weekend!

Jarrai said...

Drama drama drama!!! Mehn i feel your pain about the bag...as for M and his so called "friend" time will reveal all and from what i can grasp someone will be crying

Happy holidays xx

exschoolnerd said...

Good riddance to bad rubbish..u shud be thnking God sef dt u didnt ja M face...if not..na so so drama for full ur life...as for ur friend...her eye go soon come down.

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

Naija Bunny, true but then unfortunately 'your mother's child' loves all things sinfully expensive, and is praying hard for the impossible a sinfully rich man who is not a player lol...

Funms, I would sell my liver for a Hermes bag especially the winter collection....but then again if i can sell my liver why do i find it hard to jus open my legs for one( doesnt make sense does it lol)

Afrobabe, jus a tear?...... my heart cracked a little

Ms O, I love Spumante/Asti my ex boyfriend introduced it to me, and for that I will be eternally gratefully.

Jarrai, i feel guilty though, part of me is saying maybe i should call x best friend and hint.....but then again they deserve each other.

exschoolnerd, I know she will be crying soon, she better collect as much designer gear as she can....whilst she can

clnmike said...

"If you were seriously chasing a chicca and she keeps saying no outright what is a decent mourning period before chasing another girl that she may or may not know about?"

There is no mourning period.

The love train doesnt stop running cause some one doesnt want to get on board.

But your instinct were right on with this character.

I wouldnt rat him out though if your not good friends with the other girl anymore.

Jaycee said...

I feel sorry for your ex-best friend...apparently, M has another white chic who's preggie.

The drama of life is not bound to cease in any number of years...

miz-cynic said...

na wa.god saved u from bros abrakadabra.

Temite said...

Thank goodness you saved yourself from brother M and his wahala. Me I wont tell the other girl, except if I really want to pour sand in her already bitter garri. God will save us all from trifling idiots.

K said...

the bag....oooh the bag...ok other than that mscheeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwww who the hell does he think he is fooling? both of them actually. And your ex bestfriend if you are fooling someone together she thinks he cant fool her? Let them be and be happy that you dodged a bullet in 2008...lol

ShonaVixen said...

a tear or two for the Hermes bag...oooh...hmmm this M guy, buys them Hermes bags in bulk, buy one get one free??...lol...

ShonaVixen said...

canoodling by the cheese counter???..lol..

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

Clnmike, LOL @ "The love train doesnt stop running cause some one doesnt want to get on board." true though.

Jaycee, Dont feel sorry for her, they deserve each other.

Mz Cynic, I will say AMEN to that!!!

Temite, im not going to say nothing to her, she thought i was a fool, tryna dump all that 'we jus friends' bull on me, we will see who is the real fool in the end.

K, true I dodged a bullet but the bag would have made up for quite a crappy 2008....but on second thought no amount of bags in the world can make up for the drama that boy brings.

Shona Vixen, yep cheese counter it was lol, maybe coz the cheese counter is tucked away at the back of the store, nobody frequents that end unless you want cheese or as i jus recently found out canoodling.

~Sirius~ said...

No way! LOL!!
Boy,My why am I not surprised at all, But buying Hermes in bulk?? Jeeze! What's that all about??

Drink for two at the sister's!!!

And Ex BBF is in for a rude shock

Laughter said...

Egbele o..... Correct player na bobo donkey o.... Gosh i don't mind one hermes bag too.... Well good for her. The dude is a player no doubt, thank God you saw the foresight to say no no no... Poor ex bf, you will have the last laugh don't you worry my dear..... Foolish gal....
Have another drink for me at your sis...

Tigeress said...

Dude sounds like a right prick and I seriously question his source of income!!!!

Any babe content with what she has will not be interested in such a guy. Guys who spend lavishly on girls- raises some serious red flags!!!! May man not buy we women o! lol

doll said...

heya...I can understand…..D feeling will pass

Bombchell said...

OMG OMG WHAT!!!!

girl I read Hermes bag or briefcase lost my train of thought and ran down here to comment, lol ill go back to finsih reading

WHAT!!!! if they just hangout, CAN SOMEBODY, anybody! pls come hang out with me.


& I agree with clnmike. If u outright say no, no mourning, chicas allowed.

but if uve dated, no chicas allowed.

Just...Toluwa said...

Yeah, they do deserve each other. And to think that she believes she is playing u!

Seasons greetings!

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

~Sirius~, at least now that you know if you meet a merc driving, hermes buying, dude with an 'undefinable' job runnnnnnn lol

Laughter, they do deserve each other, am glad i had the sense to runnnnnnn with my life

Tigeress, big red flags coz his profession is 'undefinable' he never says exactly what he does and that to me means fraud, money laundering, corruption, illegal sh*t

Bombschell, lol the bag would have been nice but at the rate he is going all the girls in my nieghbourhood will be sporting one

Just..Toluwa, Happy Holidays to you too hon, hope you have a fantastic time.

po said...

Hmm. The guy sure does sound like a player. You are better off without him.

The Boob Sistas said...

Good riddance to bad rubbish!!! Say a prayer of thanks girl cos with friends like that who needs enemies...

Merry christmas. xoxo

LG said...

helloooooooooooo' anybodi home????
i ve got sum hampers 4 u :)
*merry christmas hon'

princesa said...

M's type?

Run, run far away!

Too bad for ur friend.

geisha.song. said...

welll... technically there cant be a rule preventing old discarded toasters from toasting friends. if there were nobody would get together!
and that guy... bad guy!!! lol. identical hermes bags? well you did say he was rich. ah well!
so ru gonna tell ur friend?

poeticallytinted said...

This is one of those times you look back and say to yourself "Dayum, was I right or what?!!!".

Chest beating moment gurl.. go on.

but then... at least exbf got the hermes bag and lord knows what else...lol. so e no too loss.

YoungBlackBeauty said...

Dude is on some other ish.

But hey a Hermes is a Hermes no matter where it came from! LO! J/K...kinda.

aloted said...

nawa o!! dont even know wat to say but thank goodness this isnt your drama.

abeg pls wish ur sister a happy birthday for me.

La Reine said...

DrAma! Could be the plot of sitcom really.

You surely have been rid of rubbish on two accounts, kudos to you girl.


-Have a Merry Christmas.

Muze said...

shooooo...

i'll take a Hermes.

lol.

seriously though, dude is a jerk. squared. and rich jerks KNOW they can BE jerks, because they're rich.

loving your blog. can't believe i'm this late to the party.

lemme catch up. lol.


oh-- and i'd be HELLA pissed at her going out with him. although you didn't technically go out with him though... so maybe not. sticky situation.

rethots said...

....and 'tis said, "the guilty are always afraid of their shadows." Do you know why 'twas important to him for you not to tell your ex-best friend? 'tis cos, your opinion of him matters alot to him.

Short of which, are you trying to say you are older than 21years?

bumight said...

can I laugh! at M of course!

exschoolnerd said...

hows d hangover dere? hope u feeling much better oh!! and the rock band playing in ur head..lol..hope they've stopped.

have a wonderful rest o the day!!!

rethots said...

Merry Christmas

StandTall-The Activist said...

The two are birds of a feather. Dont u think?

Happy belated b'day to your sis and merry xmas

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

Po, yeah the word 'player' was solely invented with him in mind.

Boob sisters, hey thanks for the advice about the matalan bra, will definitely try it, but if i dont like it im personally going to demand my money back from you lol.

Young Black Beauty, true a hermes will always be a hermes, so maybe i ought to.......nah lemme flee from temptation.

poeticallytinted, chest beating, shoulder patting moment for me!!!

LG, merry christmas to you too, hope santa was real good to you.

geisha song, yeah he is rich alright but im sure they do sell those bags in different colours at the very least.

princesa, Im still mourning the bag dear, that bag would have been so at home on my arm lol

Muze, hey thanks for stopping by my blog, im not mad at her for dating him, but kinda ticked off that she felt she had to lie about it

rethots, 21? I will take that as a compliment LOL

Bumight, not just M but ex best friend as well coz her chickens will soon come home to roost.

ex Nerdy, LOL my hangover was terrible woke up on Christmas day at 3pm, no wonder Santa wasnt very good to me.

Aloted, will certainly pass on the well wishes, am so glad i made the right decision

Standtall, yeah birds of a feather should flock together...but the bag, i would have died for a bag like that.

La Reine, merry christmas to you too, and im glad im rid of both of them....well not quite.....he still pesters me (sigh)

Buttercup said...

im praying along with u..may God bless u with that sinfully rich man who is not a player..amen!

Truthful Trish said...

i love your blog :)

i absolutely hate secret santa time at work because i always end up getting the shitty gifts and cheap ones as well lmao

and i had a crucial hangover as well so i can imagine how u felt lol

scribble,me.free said...

"what is a decent mourning period before chasing another girl that she may or may not know about?"

mourning period? what mourning period? you women ask the funniest questions sometimes lol..

to be honest, you have no obligation to tell your friend anything, especially if she claims to be "just friends"